I have lived by the 12 steps these past few years. Still working on them and have made it to Step 9, which is the amends. It's been a difficult journey for me, but it has changed my life and has been really helpful. I attended a lot of meetings, (in person), here in North Carolina, and even some on Zoom. The CODA meetings are really helpful too, (codependency anonymous) and has helped me work through the issues that I face with my husband.