So twice this week I've been called assertive and a b***h.

Examples include:

1. Telling someone in a corridor : "If you want to walk with me, you're going to have to catch up. I'm not waiting".

2. Posting in a group chat : "Getting other people's work, signed off is not my responsibility".

3. I had agreed to meet up with someone at 11. I had already waited 15 mins and after three missed calls and messages. They finally replied. They had overslept. I told them I was not going to wait. That I was leaving. She said I completely changed and turned into a b****h when I was angry. I wasn't particularly angry, just didn't want to wait for her to get dressed. Then factor in travel time for her to get to me. I didn't even have time to have coffee and breakfast in the morning so wanted to eat.

Most people are not used to women having boundaries. The old me used to put the needs over others before my own.