@PeterPa
when my partner does not do what I want I feel disappointment. If I let that grow and grow it can become anger.
Anger is dangerous. That can really end your chances of reconciliation. She admits feeling guilty so not sure where that will go, but in my experience if I let that anger grow until it explodes, that ends all trust and may cause serious harm to the relationship.
One way to deal with feelings of anger is to write in a journal all the expectations you have of the relationshiop. Then see how unrealistic some of them are.
Another thing to consider, when someone is depressed, often they want to isolate. Not interacting with others seems to be less painful than socializing.
CANDC