Like I said, telling someone who is asking for help to stop ruminating to stop ruminating, is like telling a depressed person to cheer up or an anxiety sufferer to stop worrying.

This is why I'm here. This recurred about9 days ago and I can't shake it this time.

And yes, the next guy will get suckered, after some time of getting her best.

To be fair, she did ask for time with the youngest. But the youngest is of an age where they have a say. The court said no visitation.

She completely discarded the oldest. The youngest saw that and called her out on it; "You want me because I'm a pay check. When I turn 18 you'll throw me away too. You weren't a mom when you were here, so don't pretend to be one now."

And, requesting visitation (actually 50-50 custody), was for appearances really, because she did things like withhold vaccination records, health insurance cards, birth certificates, etc., which we needed. She also tried to block us visiting my parents because my mom is in early stages of dementia.

The youngest is the glitch, you see.

She wants to be a downtrodden single mother, and instead she looks terrible. There's been attempts at image control with former friends.

Anyway, I'm going through a real setback.

RDM