Great points, Comrade! What you said actually really made me think of the time I posted here about my T wanting certain information from me before she would allow me to book another session, which at the time I was so upset about, I felt abandoned and betrayed and a lot of us here agreed it was a big red flag.

A year on, I can see why she did this and that she was in fact being a great T and doing everything she could to help me when I was in a messed up state. I stuck with her because I was so attached to her and I am so glad that I did because she goes above and beyond, does not have overly strict boundaries but is professional at the same time and I just get on with her and trust her better than any of my past Ts.

So yes the context and tone etc. absolutely matters and although we all try to be helpful and supportive on the forums, none of us can really know