OK, I'm sharing this here because I won't talk to anyone about it, because it is in bad taste, it can be seen as hurtful, and also because of a Karma sorta thing happening.

Like I said, I saw her dating profile, seeking a long term relationship, stating herself as a single mom with graduate degrees.

I got a child support payment from her in December.

The one for January was two weeks late. I never said anything. I figured I'd get it eventually and that she was probably struggling. She pulled $2000 out of the joint line of credit (which was supposed to be off limits after our court date in December), so I assume that is what she is living off and making payments out of. I got a "high priority" email from her, and a flurry of text messages and emails alerting me to the emailed transfer for January child support. Thirteen minutes later a court officer called me to see if she had paid, as apparently they'd been in touch with her a few times about late child support.

I just got my child support payment for February from her, and an immediate follow up from a court officer to see if I received it.

I'm giddy right now. Like...... I silently laughed at my desk until I was wicking tears from my eyes.

I went and bought myself a breakfast sandwich and a coffee to breathe for a moment. I'm giddy, and I feel like that's wrong, but the thing is.... It was over a decade of threats of everything she was going to take, and me saying, "That's just not possible. Please work with me." It was months of me saying, "Can we just please go to mediation and figure out a support payment that is workable for all of us," expecting that I would be paying her, and she refused it, because she was going to take so much more. It was me begging her to release any hold on the house my son and I wanted to buy together, so that we could sell the family home and free up liquidity for all of us, and she refused. So, now I have the family home and she has no cushion or liquidity.

She threatened me that she was going to take so much I'd be forced to rent a bedroom in someone's home and I'd never have a house or an apartment. She's now renting a bedroom in someone's house.

I know she's hurting. I've done absolutely nothing to "rub it in" to her. Oh my GOSH this must make her angry . I'm sure she absolutely hates me for all of this .

And there was a monthly education fund we had been contributing to for the kids that she took about $2500 out of. The court has ordered that all gets paid back to me, since I am the guardian, and she has to continue to direct payments to it monthly, which hasn't happened yet. I'm giving it a month then alerting my lawyer that some money is due.

She must be so, so angry, and she has nowhere for it to go. I wonder who's getting it. Is it her landlord? Her co-workers? Her besties that talked her into all this?

Oh my gosh, I'm tearing up with laughter again.

I can't help but think that a 45-55 year old man isn't going to be too ready to take in a woman who can't work and who has child support payments and has no contact with her kids. Holy smokes, that's a lot of red flags. I expect it will be a string of short relationships to make withdrawals from.

Oh my gosh this coffee is delicious.

I bought one for a friend at work. He asked what was up. I said, just relaxing a bit, I just got my child support. He and his wife know my family and our history. He just toasted me with his coffee and said, "It's time to go scorched earth on her."

"I don't think I want to do that. What does that look like."

"Date her new friends."

I AM DYING RIGHT NOW!