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Originally Posted by eskielover
Since when does holding someone accountable make us the bad guy? I have never understood why this happens but can see how this leads into the creation of stigmas that are not always undeserved as people tend to want to protect themselves from behaviors they know will hurt them in the future especially after having had a bad experience.
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110% yes.
IME, even counselors don't seem to push much for accountability in disordered people. Maybe they figure it's pointless, but it leaves the destruction in the wake largely unresolved
The only people who often seem to have to take accountability are the ones who've already taken on too much responsibility and accountability in the situation. I get the "I can only change myself" thing, but it's truly like being doubly victimized at times.
