@Nammu. Thank you for your input. I totally agree with your suggestion. That is what my therapist suggested as well. I have been thinking about a time that she will be gone in the near future. I have been moving things out of her home for many months (I still own another property in another state closer to where I work). I know she will never change and I wish I would have seen it much sooner in terms of her drinking and various other things. I have only myself to blame for that. There hasn't been a connection for a long time and since the time (and times prior to me trying to end it) she has always used some form of manipulation, such as using "the girls view you as their father", and obviously her tears when I told her when I wanted out. The truth is, I like her girls but don't have a fatherly love or bond with them.