I hate to tell you.... If it was me....

I'd be pulling the pin and leaving with as little drama as possible.

I say that as someone who stayed in a marriage way, way too long. BUT, I was attracted to her, and we had a family, and I had been emotionally beaten down and abused and thought I couldn't make it on my own. I also was committed because of religious convictions.

That's not you.

You've been manipulated by tears. The next step is manipulated by drama or threats.

If you want to leave on good terms, pre-pay a couple of months of utilities and leave a gift card for some groceries. Tell her you'll wait for a period of time before pursuing a relationship in the event that she can make some progress in the next 3-6 months. She won't.

The longer you stay, the more "on the hook" you'll become. If she is damaging your finances that will continue. My wife blew about $100,000 in 6 years on practically nothing.

She will verbally slander you. Oh well.

Here's a video that might help.



RDM