I think after reading the 33 pages of posts, I think too that she is trying to confirm that you are always still around and will always be there no matter what. You should try to reply less and re-frame from replying at times. It really is a unique thing that women fell. Have you tried to ask her what and how she feels about anything she wants to share and then just have to reply? This sounds counter intuitive but she may only need you to listen and not solve her problems. Just listen, no reply and accept whatever it is she is telling you. From her response that you are a narcissistic, it seems like every time she would say something, especially about you, you got on the defense. Which is a normal human response, but to her you are not letting her share her feelings and you are disregarding her feelings by solving it (that's what we men do, especially for who we love, I get it, but women think differently).