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Originally Posted by LadyShadow
@ Soupe du jour so glad to see you after so long. I am in this EXACT situation. My sister's now husband is SO controlling and hates me so much. He was the one that looked up my mugshot online and showed her to prove that I was no good and a criminal. He drove a wedge between my sister and our parents and me and my sister haven't spoken in almost a year. She blocked my phone number and even though I leave her a lot of voicemails, I am hurt and broken that I have lost my sister due to this controlling alcoholic. But it is also subjective. My sponsor had mentioned, it could be a possibility that my sister is at fault too. The things she could have told me about the years I tormented her with all my psychotic episodes and all my anger could have fueled his mistrust of me. So, as much as I want to blame him, if she truly loved me as her sister, she would reach out. Because for me, no matter what my husband might have told me, he could never tell me not to contact my family.
As for me altogether, my symptoms are minimal. I am getting through each day as it comes, even today when I cursed out my tax accountant. I need to control my anger, it's the part of my bipolar that I have never been able to deal with. Ended up doing my taxes myself, which I should have done in the first place.
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Hi LadyShadow. You are right. Ultimately it is our sister's decision. Mine is nearing 60 years old, so I can't say it's her being immature, at this stage. Looking back, my sister was never really supportive of me. She never even asked me how I was doing after any of my 10 psychiatric hospitalizations. I tried in small ways to support her, but she was never that open to it. She and her husband would try to keep me from visiting my nephew at the hospital, though I managed a few times. I remember even at 12 years old fighting her husband when he verbally abused her, but she begged me to "Please don't say anything, Soupe!" So I gave up on that and have said only a little about him abusing her, since. I wouldn't say we've been terribly close, throughout our lives. There is an age difference, plus a significant enough personality and life history one that we relate to each other little. Oh well!
I hope your taxes are soon done. My husband and I just thought about them yesterday.