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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal
omg. h and i just had a HUGE fight. I don't even know how it happened. Well I kind of do. I misunderstood him this morning and thought he said we needed to book our flight for visiting our son in May after I got off work today, he said this as he went out the door on a job, at least that was what i heard, but apparently not what he meant. come to find out he meant after the superbowl. Because I started looking at flights when I got off work like I thought he wanted to do and he started yelling at me. I don't know how it spiraled out of control so quickly. well i guess i do because of course i started crying immediately, like i always do when he yells at me like that. He ended up SCREAMING at me that this is probably the last time the 49'ers will go to the superbowl in his lifetime and now he can't enjoy the game, and if he bets on it he'll lose because he yelled at me, and then he yelled at me some more. i wouldn't be suprised if the neighbors heard it. I'm so upset. He went to bed. i want to get drunk.
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Artie I'm so sorry to read this. Hope you're feeling a bit better. You did absolutely nothing wrong and don't deserve to be shouted at over something as small as this. Looking at flights is such a normal thing.
Shouting at you shows that he has no respect for you.
What do
you want. Just because you are married and value your wedding vows doesn't mean you have to be miserable and white knuckle your way through life. I used to wish my parents would get a divorce because it was so toxic.
Are you happy within your marriage ?
Is this a marriage where you are growing together?
Are you walking on eggshells around H, fearing the next time this will happen?
If you imagined the next two years what would be different? Would he be willing to change? Go to counselling. Or is everything blamed on you?