This is just a gentle reminder to members here that it is helpful to think twice before replying to another member's thread, looking for support.

Recently a thread was removed where other members were publicly judging and criticizing another member's valid choice in how they received their health care from a professional.

This is not supportive and goes against our community guidelines. If your post isn't supportive, it may not be appropriate to our community.

Please remember when replying:

• Is your reply kind?
  Kindness only takes another minute to change a harsh reply to a more empathetic reply.
  
• Is your reply necessary?
  Does it add to the conversation in helping the original poster (OP) figure out how to deal or cope with an issue? Or is it just your opinion about something mentioned that has little bearing on the OP's question or concern?
  
• Does it help support the other member?
  Put yourself in the other person's shoes for a moment and then read your reply with their eyes. Is it supportive and help the person with the issue they've identified as the primary thing they're dealing with? Or is it more critical and judgmental.

There are places and times to offer constructive feedback -- when another member specifically is asking for it. Otherwise, such "feedback" is often seen for something else, being un-supportive and not particularly helpful. This doesn't mean you have to be Pollyanish in your replies. Just that you think through whether the reply is going to be received the way you intended and helps support the person with their emotional or other concern.

Thanks for your consideration. We're all human here, we all make mistakes. Please keep that in mind in replying to other members here.