Thanks for your replies, both of you. I really appreciate it. This is such a scary and overwhelming time. And I'm currently pregnant and finding it that much more overwhelming.

We've (ironically) done the little discussion about "private parts" and who they belong to, about 2 months ago or so. Just because I figured the child is so bright I needed to get the ball rolling.

I am at the point where I don't want to get my child any more involved than need be. I dont' want her in counseling or having a million different exams run on her -- especially if nothing happened. It would be so traumatizing to her and I think she'd be worse off. So, chaotic, I do agree. We certainly have no intention of being in that position again and have distanced ourselves from that family.

I, personally, just can't get over the guilt of it all. I never leave my child with anyone -- she's by my side 24/7. And the ONE time I did, this supposedly happened. I can't help but think it's all my fault. And the few ppl I've talked to about it are seriously getting mad at me for blaming myself. And it's really making ME mad that they're mad at me for feeling the way I do. It's how I feel, dammit. I can't seem to find a specific forum anywhere for this type of situation, either. If any of you know of one, please let me know. Thanks!