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eskielover · Feb 16, 2024, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by JeLynne01

I appreciate everyone’s thoughts. I put some more thought into this, and a number of years ago I was guilty of ghosting as well.

It was a good two years into this controlling relationship, and I found out that not only had he gone to my my mom, but others in the neighborhood, and talking to them about our problems. I had discussions about my disapproval, but it kept happening.

I didn’t trust him, nor did I want to be around him anymore, so I cut all contact with him. I suppose I’m guilty of ghosting as well. It’s not a nice thing to do under any circumstances, so I would never do it again. That’s for sure.

This is not "ghosting". You had discussions about your disapproval & he kept doing it. If he was too stupid to know that is what caused you not to want to be around him any more then that is his issue. You told him without having to put it in his face as your final parting conversation that would have probably ended up in an argument anyway.

I had a situation with an old acquaintance from HS & College a few years ago. I had enough of his kind of thinking. I told him I was unfriending him & then he came back with a message through FB messenger with the same crap. I told him I had enough & was blocking him. A year later he told a mutual friend that he wanted a chance to have his say. I just told the friend that he had already had his say & nothing he could say would change my opinion so no I was NOT going to unblock him. If they don't understand what they are told....that is totally their problem.....& it needs to be just stopped. That is not ghosting, that is setting boundaries & enforcing them