I'd like to say, to make the decisions you have to make, please consider putting the friendship on hold.

The titilation and anticipation of meeting someone taboo for a flirty interaction is ultimately feeding a fantasy.

Whatever you experience with your flirty friend isn't likely to be what you're expecting or hoping it to be. That needs to pause while you make some decisions.

Telling your husband you need a little more time to explore life, yourself, and each other before bringing kids into the mix isn't a bad thing.

There's a very good book called 101 Nights of Great Romance. You alternate planning date nights based on ideas in the book, and there are physical intimacy things to try as you go. I honestly think it's a good investment, and gets results immediately, unlike counseling.

I think you love your husband. Maybe See if he'll join you on some discovery before you decide to go alone.

RDMercer