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it isn't our depression or our pills or not taking pills to make us better. it is them. it is those who hurt us. it is life its self.

my man in my life is saying the way i am is because my depression and not taking pills that is making me the way i am. noooooooooooooooooooooo.

it is him, and those who hurt me and many more. not my depression. and coming at me and pushing me and yelling at me not helping at all.

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Hi Lost Angel:

I see 2 separate issues in this post.

I agree with that people can say hurtful and unhelpful things to us because of their ignorance. I have had to draw a boundary, and even cut a friendship out of my life, because of it. When we can't do that -- as in the case of your man or my mom -- I guess all we can try to do is remember that it comes from ignorance. It's very hard for people who haven't experienced depression to understand it -- to them, it's just "sadness" that we've given into, a personal weakness on our parts.

I disagree with the idea that "it is him, and those who hurt me and many more" who cause the depression -- if I've interpreted what you wrote accurately. I disagree for two reasons:

1. Other people also run into disappointments in life, into people not treating them as they'd like, and genuine crises and tragedies -- and yet, they are not depressed.

2. I believe that therapy and cognitive therapy can work to help us better understand what triggers our pain and to develop strategies to deal with it more effectively. If we can learn a different response, this suggests that it is we, not the others, who are responsible for how we respond to life.

I'm sorry that you're feeling so badly, Lost Angel. I know what that's like.

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