Your wife is probably hanging out at bars/clubs looking to feed her ego and drink. That’s the type of place to avoid not just to avoid running into her but a narcissistic/disordered type like her.

Most towns/areas have a local paper that has a community section. That’s a good thing to check out to see if there are any community activities you can get involved with. A lot of times there are cooking classes you can take to broaden your cuisine skills as I remember you mentioning you cook the meals.

You might even offer your own small course where you teach common car care classes. There are women who want to know how to maintain their vehicles.

You want to engage in things your wife would not engage in. You want a someday partner that is a much different kind of person than your wife. Your wife’s community is at the bars and clubs, not the kind of woman that’s healthy for you.