You gotta practice a good "glad its you and not me" face. A slightly raised eyebrow, a quarter of a smile - or a really hearty expression of relief.

How did she not scare you enough? What more would it take? My car was like completely keyed, mirrors and windshield wipers torn off, an autograph scratched into the rear bumper - i get it. You can KNOW this person is very very bad, but emotional wound that she recalls was NOT created by her, and cannot be healed by her.

Square peg, round hole. Serenity prayer - strength to accept what you cannot change, courage to change what you can, and the wisdom to know the difference. There is not another option whereby you change the unacceptable into acceptable, where you change round into square or vice versa.

A thing ive seen is to think of your life as a novel. Is this action moving the story forward?