It’s not bad to feel anger. Remember that anger is the part of yourself that loves you. It isn’t that you get angry, instead it’s how you react to the toxic person who is treating you badly.

Your wife constantly threatened and devalued you in what you just shared. She wanted you to believe SHE had all the power. Well guess what, she has no power and even her own children don’t want her around.

Toxic people like your wife want you to react so they can play the victim. People like your wife do not love THEY USE. The only history you had with her is she figured how to play you TO USE YOU.

You are a good person who doesn’t want to hurt others. You tend to carry the hurt and the fear you have now is that you don’t want to hurt anymore. Now you are learning how to distance so you don’t get hurt and also so you don’t react in any way that gives her power to play the victim to have whatever power she can create over you.

You are doing really well. The anger and hurt takes time to sort through.