What helped me was validation and education from members on this forum.

Then I reached out to a distant family member who worked in mental health counseling.

She encouraged me to trust the evidence and to act on the evidence until such a time that I could trust my emotions more.

I trusted her at a time that I didn't trust myself.

One thing she said to me was, "Have you voiced these things to her before? Has she listened or changed? Will it help to say them one more time?"

My father said, "You can't beg someone to stay and assign conditions. You put conditions if they beg to stay."

Those pieces of advice helped me to shut up.

The next thing is, ANYTHING you say can potentially be used against you in court for the separation/divorce.

At some point you have to stop trying, and you have to let your lawyer speak.

I wish you the very best as you heal.

RDMercer