It’s not selfish to live your life. There was a great movie, “ Shirley Valentine” about a British woman who goes to Greece and finds fulfillment. It’s a bit different in that she’s married but she has a daughter who’s an adult but leans on mum. While mum’s away she grows up. When I was 24 I was self sufficient too. I don’t think it’s throwing in their face to say that they need to lean on each other.

Good luck and may it be all you hope for.