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Violetta75 · 03:25 PM

I'm not as smart as some of the responses here are very good. I had strict Christian beliefs as a young woman growing up with strict Christian parents. I also cuddled kissed etc, and did feel some shame in it. It was a long time ago. I do feel that repressing a desire to kiss, cuddle, be affectionate with someone when you want to isn't a good idea or healthy.

If you @stargalaxy feel it makes you shamed, then there is truth in how you feel. If you want to set boundaries for yourself, as in, if you feel that kissing, cuddling, and more that happened is making you feel worse inside I encourage you to find another therapist. I don't think you have one that is understanding enough. I haven't read the Holy Bible from front to back, but I don't see anywhere that having affection is wrong.... it is ok to want and need that, we are human. God wont be 'punishing' you for this, it is your own mind that is creating this somewhat 'hate' towards yourself. Only having intercourse before marriage is wrong in God's eyes. Even that, I believe can be forgiven. God knows we are human and have temptations. Pray about it, and trust your own feelings. But don't repress the feelings you have. Make sure you know what you want. If this person doesn't agree with your own beliefs, you might want to not continue seeing him. If you feel good, think about what you'd like to have the outcome be. Jesus came from the lineage of King David, who had many wives. I'd encourage you to see that even Kings did things that we'd wonder how it could be have been right in the eyes of God.

It is a fine line to walk. I don't know how to put this, I don't want to trigger you. I was raped. Men can become aggressive, you don't want that to happen. Protect yourself, ask God to reveal to you what he wants you to do, but also realize you've done nothing wrong.. that is my opinion of what i've read here. I wish you the best. If you are very young, realize that you have the right to choose who you want to be, who you want to be with, and what goals you have are yours alone, with the help of God's guidance. I'm sure not great with doing everything right, i'm old and get tempted too, because we are created this way. We all have a desire to have another human to hold and touch, a partner in life. I wish you all the best.