I don't wish to diminish the validity of your fears, you have every right to feel afraid, but sometimes trying to use logic can help push back on out of control emotions.


It says that you live in the state of North Carolina, searching it says that it has a 9.7 murder rate per 100.000 people. It sounds like you live in some suburb or more rural area which probably has an even lower rate.

Keep in mind that I'm sure the murder rate skews strongly towards people involved in shady dealings.


To put this into context I looked up the death rate by car accident and it was 19, so basically all things considered any random person has more than twice (probably much more) chance of dying on a car accident than of being randomly murdered. Yet I doubt most worry about it too much beyond maybe using a seat belt and other basic precautions.


So logically speaking, I think you should try to focus your mind the same way, take reasonable precautions while keeping in mind that the chance of this happening to you in particular are very, very small.


I think American media and culture are a bit too sensational and focused on these types of crimes so it creates this anxiety that's there's random murders happening everywhere, constantly.