Dear T,

I understand your wanting to think about it. But after session, I realized: If you think about it, considering my fairly detailed explanation of what exactly I meant, and *then* say it's not OK, I think that would actually feel worse than if you'd just said "no" outright. Because then, I could think, "Maybe you misunderstood what I'm asking." And maybe you still could be.

But if I come in Monday, and you're like, "Yeah, I thought about it, and I wouldn't be comfortable with that, even if it's very occasionally," I know I would struggle with that. Unless you could give a really clear explanation and would offer up alternatives. Or be open to what I suggest, as I didn't fully explain them today.

And seriously, you should have known better than to give the "I love you" hanging out there example for the one thing I was talking about... Though maybe it possibly helped you understand how awkward that was for me, back when that happened? If you somehow hadn't comprehended that already, from our various discussions about it?

Love,
LT