Dear T,

Also, H told D to "shut up" tonight, and it really bothered me. He said to me (not to her) a bit later that he shouldn't have snapped at her. But he doesn't seem to get why "shut up" isn't OK (unless maybe in some extreme circumstance, like if you're waiting for instructions in an emergency).

I think you have a similar opinion of "shut up," so you'd get it. I've been validated in a women's Facebook group I'm in, so that's helping.

Love,
LT