Your wife has programmed you to believe you are responsible for her unhappiness. Yet your wife is abusing alcohol and had been going out with her friends to bars/clubs and had been interacting with other men but still expecting you to finance her lifestyle. Her children don’t feel safe with her and even you get triggered by her changing behaviors.

Your wife is not going to win in her attempt to get the court to make you pay for her unhealthy lifestyle. The court will see that you can’t afford to provide for your children and pay for her party lifestyle. Just because your wife thinks she is entitled doesn’t mean she is.