Wow. This is horrible. I agree that this is a problem on his end (his stuff) and he is not skilled enough to keep it from impacting (possibly ruining?) your therapy with him.

It also sounds like he is accusing you of wanting to explore this part of yourself and the sneetch community JUST to somehow get a glimpse/foothold into his life?? Like this interest in being a sneetch is all about him (rather than your own self exploration or desire for community) and you're practically a stalker who is invading his privacy? I could be reading that wrong--but wow that is quite the accusation. That alone would be a deal breaker for me. I could never trust him again.

He has really put you in a double bind. I'm sorry.