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How many truly good relationships actually exist? How many to we look at & think they are really good whwn in reality there are some serious relationship issues? This is a mental health forum, how many people with or without mental health issues REALLY have the skills to have that really good relationship?
These are just questions I have asked myself all my life. At my age I have come to the conclusion.....NONE. Even what look like really good relationships have some serious issues going on behind the scenes. Sometimes we either have to adapt or we have to realize the relationship really isn't for us because our needs just aren't being met. Sometimes we can search all our life & they never will be met. Sometimes we are lucky to find that need met but something else will be a problem.
I decided that I wasn't interested in any relationships because of the dysfunction I lived around for 54 years. It takes all my energy to have functional friendships with others so I just do my own thing. It takes years to sort out our feelings on what we want to tolerate or not & weigh the pros & cons.
I know people with trust issues who stay for financial reasons....or other reasons. Something we have to figure out with our own heart
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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