What I mean is that (thank you for clarifying answers) you essentially went on a safe job interview with the guy. You learned those concerns (I agree with Divine that they might or might not be deal breakers, depending on personal preferences) DURING that job interview. It is not even that knowing that there were potential red flags, you STILL accepted the date. No, you accepted the date to LEARN about the guy and you indeed LEARNED about him. How else would you have learned, after all? You are not a clairvoyant. So there is absolutely nothing to second guess yourself here.


You went on an information seeking expedition in an environment that was totally safe, you did not sleep with the guy on the first date for goodness sake, and now, in the safety of your home, in an unrushed manner, and in the company of your online peers who might provide helpful suggestions, you are considering the information you acquired and whether this information constitutes red flags for you. So far so good. What did you do wrong in your opinion?