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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
Thanks East.
Silences are hard for me. I'm not used to them with L or in life. L has never left me alone in silence because I asked her not to. She's not pushy or anything. She just fills the silence. For example, she'll say that she's there and it's okay to need a break. Things like that.
I feel like if I was silent on the phone, she'll think I hung up on her. Video would at least give her evidence I'm still there, but I don't want to visually see her right now.
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I get this. I very rarely have silence with my T. If I'm quiet, he tends to fill in the space with talking. Which is easier for me. With being silent on the phone, she should be able to tell if you've hung up, as the phone connection would have ended. (Though she wouldn't be able to tell if you'd, say, put the phone down and walked away.) Maybe you could talk about how to do silence on the phone?
Random idea: I have a white noise machine that I use to help me sleep. There are also (free) white noise apps on phones and tablets, like iPads. Or a fan could serve the same purpose. Just wondering if there's something that makes noise that you could have going in the background so L would know you're still there, but you wouldn't have to talk?