Yet another comment for you, R...

As I was cleaning up after a round of pruning, your quote popped into my head: "The Condo is a cobra which needs constant charming as I step away, slowly, so as not to get bit."

I've been a member in a few groups that I joined because either my daughter or my wife (or both) got me into them. I would endure the membership and participation well beyond my enjoyment and nearly beyond tolerating it until I'd just not show up and ghost the follow up calls. This is quite the opposite of backing away slowly. It was more like waving my arms like Soap's Burt Campbell.

Some lessons from my experiences are:

• Avoid joining any groups.
• If you do join a group, don't show up regularly.
• If you do show up regularly, be passive, non committal and as unenthusiastic as possible.
• If you keep showing up with enthusiasm, do not agree to participate, especially on a regular basis.
• If you do participate regularly and get to the point where you wish you were doing something else, quit.

The real lesson I learn is that I never learn my lesson.