Hey TheGal.
I have had a lifelong battle with shame as well.
It’s a seemingly complicated matter, though most complicated things started out rather simply and it’s the mental gymnastics around that simple thing that complicates it, sometimes this is the case.
The first question is what are the thing(s) that you are ashamed about?
Obviously you need not answer, but if you are curious, you can ask me about the things that make me feel ashamed.
Or not.
I find discussing it and disseminating it helps me debunk the shame, wether it came from something I did, or something that was done to me, something I said or something that was said about me etc. until you begin to map it out and get a good look at it, as a whole, or at least a majority of a whole.
Maybe even make a graph or chart.
I did not make a chart but that’s because I have an unreasonable dislike of charts.