I agree with you. You don't pay them to listen or care. You pay them to hold space for you, a space where your needs for support take precedence. You pay so you don't have to leave equal space for your T and provide reciprocal support to them. You pay so there is reciprocity and balance in the relationship, even though you are each giving and getting different things. It is a real relationship, although one with boundaries that are different than most other relationships.