He's doing what he's allowed to do. He may want to only do those things, but that doesn't mean it's what he needs to be doing. Take them away. That will help stimulate his motivation. Give him a date by which he must have a job. He's not a child any longer.

My son was the same way. I nudged gently for years. It didn't work. I understood all his problems and issues, but that didn't help in getting him to become an independent adult. One therapist suggested getting him on disability but I refused; he hadn't even tried yet and you don't know what you can do until you try. He's doing well now and there was no easy road to get there. It was tough on us both, but he's learned he can do things he didn't think he could, and he is well on his way to full independence.

A sleep aid is not a good idea for someone with sleep apnea.