Why or how would a judge or mediator or whatever be made aware of your father's opinion? And why would they give evidence NOT presented in court any weight at all? You dont have to answer of course, but this sounds like magical thinking. Like you are a little boy still under your father's power. It may FEEL like that, and there may be people in the community who align with him and not with you, but you can still hold on to your own truth. I do, and i dont even have kids. Just my fans here! Okay, fan.