@seesaw

"Rd, can you create some space with your father? It really sounds like you just need to stay away from him for a while so you won't be exposed to his comments, etc."

Yes, healthier to stay away.

Then I'm cast as keeping the grandkids from him.

And all of this results in more isolation.

I'll look up the scapegoat stuff. Thank you @ArmorPlate108

RDMercer