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Mar 22, 2024 at 11:16 AM
Honestly, covert narcissists are the worst. They have bugged me my whole life. My mother is one I was (and still am) painted as an awful, angry person. But in reality, its the rest of those ''people'' who are entrenched in their Mind Games (and Narcissism, often covert
With PTSD (I have it too) it's almost impossible to NEVER react to their relentless poking at us. Then of course, they have more ammunition to use against us. Look up Family Scapegoat. That is me.
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Originally Posted by RDMercer
This is hard. This time I've said things that can't be undone.
I told my dad in front of my brother, that dad has covert narcissistic traits.
I said, I'm poked, and poked, and poked, until I respond. You've both treated me like I'm too angry my whole life, but this is what's always happened.
I said I'd begged dad to stop picking stuff with my wife while we were together but he wouldn't, and that all created pain, hardship and drama in my home for years, but he "had to say these things to witness for the Lord".
I've since given them both dozens of examples of similar things. Which, of course makes me look crazy and angry.
My brother knew about the stuff with my wife, but dad had already planted it that she'd started all those instances.
I really believe I've over reacted in my response this time, but my therapist said, "Of course. You have PTSD. Look at the effects of a firecracker on a veteran."
So... Ultimately I'm isolated, and I don't think there's any coming back from this one.
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