"A person gets to an age where they don’t want to go back over their past. It is often too stressful for mind and body and can also bring up emotions that can damage whatever relationship they have now"

So....

Dad will go into extreme detail about all he endured while mom was drinking; on the phone, in person, and on email. Unprompted.

Simply saying, "I was there too. Do you want to hear it from my perspective? Have you ever once, ever, asked what it was like for anyone else?"

Gets a response of, "Why do you have to keep dragging up the past? Why can't you let anything go?", and a follow-up call from mom saying, "RD darling why can't you just move on and let bygones be bygones? Why can't we have peace?"

..... ????...... All about a past I never brought up or asked to revisit.

Holy geez.

True story. Happened last month.