I am sorry you are going thru this. been there myself and it is not easy. it does take alot of understanding to deal with it. always let him know you are there for him. my hubby had such terrible flashbacks from vietnam sometimes I didn't know if I would wake in the mornings. he turned to alcohol eventually and that is what killed him. I learned quickly not to wake him up with my hands. his dr told me to use a broom handle lol I have to say it sure helped!