freewill... in the short time i have known you ... i see you as a very loving parent... who would do anything it takes to be there for her child... their is nothing unloving or unlovable about you... that is the message our abusers put in our head... and was how they were able to do the things they did to us... i remember thinking how lucky i was to have a husband who loved me... grrrrrrr.... now i see the truth... he wasn't capable of love... Lyn