<font color="green"> Affirmations in the way she has taught me are simple sentences that I am to tell myself [in front of the mirror at times] to counteract all the negative self talk and old tapes in my head.
They have to be without negatives cos your brain doesn't get the nots in them so you don't want to say -- I will not SI. I am not garbage.
Instead of I am an idiot; I am smart.
I can write good poems. I take nice pictures. I am patient and calm. I was innocent, they were wrong.I can trust my therapist. I can trust myself. I am a valuable person. etc etc ad naeseam.
Therapist said I should work on saying them like I believe them. No giggles or smirks allowed. 
I have told her I feel like I am just lying but she says if I do them regularly and more often when the old negatives kick in they will work.
As much as I hate doing them I have had some good results with them. I sort of like me where before I tried affirmations I hated and despised me. I was able to reach out to my dh more and find support with him too. 
Change is hard I suppose that is part of my mental block with affirmations. Personally I feel stupid standing in front of my mirror telling me that I am a valuable person who deserves good things. However my brain does believe that even if my heart asks me -'Are you NUTS????' So I will keep on trying.
Yes, mouse, I am not good at backing off and giving others their space - I feel helpless and like I am being indifferent to their feelings but as Dr. K said some people do not want you in their space. They just want some time and space to pull themselves together. Whatever. We are all different and I want to learn how be appropiate with others no matter how they are.  </font>
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dalila
Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere.
-Erma Bombeck
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