@LadyMe one thing you might want to do is make a list of the qualities, traits, behaviors that you do not like or are anxious about and not describe them as men but as qualities you fear. You can deal with qualities. You cannot eliminate men. Many women have qualities like anger that men have also or trying to dominate others.
I think if we know what it is that we fear we can detect it in people and animals and take steps to avoid them if possible. This can get one past black and white thinking that labels men as a threat. The real threat is the behaviors that cause me anxiety and fear.
CANDC