My heart goes out to you.

Sorry to hear the family isn't of any help and are making things worse. I think it's definitely worth asking at the hospice for aid.

Pat yourself on the back for being so proactive, for your husband and yourself. You are asking a lot of good questions...

I just took a free webinar about grief and there's such a thing as anticipatory grief.

You might want to check out the website: Media – David Maginley.

Also, really important, check out HeyPeers - Where Peers and Support Groups Connect, as they have group meeting for people, as well as one-on- one coaching.

YouTube videos, such as Kathyrn Mannix also might be helpful.

Wishing you peace and strength on your journey...

Big hug