When I read your first post here, the first thing I thought was neurodivergent behavior. If you choose to behave without the social norms & wondef why you don't fit in thst is exactly why. NO, social norms are not sexist & no the things are not ok for either sex.....thus not sexist. Seems lately when people want things to be accepted the first thing they do is label something sexist or........
I had a neurodivergent dad & ex husband & yes, their behaviors were annoying to a neurotypical person. Do your own thing with the behaviors you choose but don't be surprised why people choose to not be around those behaviors. There are always consequences to the behaviors we choose no matter what kind of mind we have or what sex we are. Behaviors attract or repell people that is just a FACT OF LIFE whether you consider them harmless or not....that is your opinion but not the opinion of others.