“If you choose to behave without the social norms & wondef why you don't fit in thst is exactly why. NO, social norms are not sexist & no the things are not ok for either sex.....thus not sexist.”

Some rude behaviors are not a choice. I am simply living by my own comfort. I would also beg to differ regarding the social norms expected exclusively towards women. I dare you to tell me it’s not sexist/racist/discriminatory to lecture a disabled woman or ethnic minority for trying to live comfortably while a privileged person can go about as he likes.

Believe me, I’ve seen the double standards in public. I’ve seen white men and neurotypicals act out in a hostile manner yet not much stirs up. And then I’ve seen how women, ethnic minorities, and neurodivergents get treated just for even DARING to live comfortably, NOT HARMING ANYBODY, just simply minding their own business. Because of our apparently lower status, we get treated to a much higher standard in comparison.

“Seems lately when people want things to be accepted the first thing they do is label something sexist or........”

Stop right there. You seem to believe that just because we minorities want to be treated equally, that apparently makes us too weak and fragile to cope with life, hence you accusing my generation (Gen Z) of irrationally labeling everything as sexist and whatnot. I don’t know you or what generation you’re from, but times are going to change to be more inclusive, and you just have to deal with it.

“I had a neurodivergent dad & ex husband & yes, their behaviors were annoying to a neurotypical person. Do your own thing with the behaviors you choose but don't be surprised why people choose to not be around those behaviors. There are always consequences to the behaviors we choose no matter what kind of mind we have or what sex we are.”

Recap what you said regarding your father and ex husband, you stated their behaviors were annoying. Compare annoying with harmful. The term annoying and its definition is mild compared to harmful. You have not described what their “annoying” behaviors are. I’m assuming you think their behaviors are similar to mine. To my knowledge, they are “annoying” but they’re not abusive.

Moving on, from you stating that my behaviors are the reason I’m being discriminated, it sounds to me that you clearly have no empathy. Once again, you claim that my behaviors are all my choice when I’ve told you it’s not a choice when you’re neurodivergent. You’ve also claimed that my behaviors have “consequences”, thus you’re now indicating my neurodivergence (what I was born with) is entirely my fault and that I deserved to be discriminated.

“Behaviors attract or repell people that is just a FACT OF LIFE whether you consider them harmless or not....that is your opinion but not the opinion of others.”

FACT OF LIFE??? Lmao You’re now stating my experience doesn’t matter? But yet everyone else’s does? Once again, you blame me for what happened to me.

Now what if I told you I was raped? You might reply what was I wearing to make the perpetrator abuse me like that. Then you would assume I was dressing like a prostitute and that apparently intimidated the perpetrator to rape me. Then I’d tell you I was wearing regular clothes, no makeup, very little skin showing. Still you’d assume I did or said something to make him/her treat me horribly. I’d explain to you how it went before the abuse.

Still you would reply it is still my fault he/she raped me, then you’d drivel on how him/her raping me was the consequences of my “actions”, which I barely did s***.

I know how this is going to turn out, you telling me that I’m using defense mechanisms and I’m just using my neurodivergence as an excuse to get away with “bad behavior”, and that I should learn to suck it up and follow social norms because they apparently don’t discriminate and hold myself accountable. So by your logic, slavery was nonexistent.

Sounds like I’m talking to a brick wall. Conversation over.