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and he said that 'at the risk of stating the obvious - i am not your mother'. and i said that i didn't think about my mother a great deal. didn't really think about my attachment to her. that i mostly thought about my father. but i guess that something must have happened with my mother in order for me to have turned to him.

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I don't know why my therapist is so obsessed with my mother and with his not being my mother. I don't hardly think of my mother (or of him being like my mother) at all. father... I think about him more with respect to my father, I think. But no, he seems obsessed with mother. sigh.

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I think sometimes therapists can be overeager in offering their interpretations to the client. My own preference for therapy is that through exploring the past and present, the client will make her own interpretations. I think it has more meaning than if the therapist makes them. Of course, occasional interpretations from T are helpful, but this interpretation that T is not your mother seems unwanted by you, and it seems like you don't think it fits. Is that right, kim?

My T always says that sometimes he is not going to get things right, and if he says something that is not true, to just tell him. That way he learns more what is going on with me and can come to an understanding that is closer to the truth. And that helps him "get me" and help me better.

Could you tell your T that the T = mother interpretation does not fit? Or do you think it actually might?

I always think it should be the client who brings up what topics to discuss (probably because that is my T's style, and we all know he is perfect, lol). Is exploring your relationship with your mother something you want to work on? Does your T know the answer to that question?