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LadyShadow · Apr 17, 2024 at 01:41 PM

Thanks so much you guys for all the wonderful advice! Every day gets better and better, although there are thoughts of him that creep in. I think the problem @Rose76 is that I was trying to unlove him when now I know that is quite impossible. Just accepting that I have to detach myself from him is the real reality that I have to face.

Thanks for all the strength and comfort @Have Hope - I do believe we have a trauma bond, and on my other thread about this I talk a lot about CODA - I try to go to a Codependency Anonymous group at least once a week. I absolutely know I am codependent, I've known for a long time, just never did anything about it, or even owned up to it. I know I am addicted too, because two weeks ago when I called him, I immediately felt a rush of relief, as if I took a hit of a drug or something - as good as that feeling was, I identified right away because that feeling felt all too familiar.

It has been exactly 10 days since I have spoken to him, and each day gets easier. I celebrated my three-year sober anniversary yesterday with friends and have been trying my best to enjoy life post relationship. Some days are better than others, but my mind does drift on him from time to time.