Changing your responses means learning how to listen differently. Eskie is right in questioning how can she state you are driving by her work when she is no longer working there?

She doesn’t want to be responsible and work. Her plan was to party with her friends and have you pay her expenses. She is an entitled user manipulator. Part of her game is to play the victim. This is magnified by her abuse of alcohol.

Save anything she says and give it to your lawyer. Lawyers and judges see this crap all the time. Remember your lawyer already told you your wife is not going to get what she is going after.