That is so sweet! I never had a grandma. My maternal grandmother passed before i was born, and my father's mother remained in Italy, passing when i was in elementary school, but i really had no idea of her even being alive. Like i never wrote her a letter or anything, altho my father used to write to Italy, and i remember him receiving air mail letters. My cousin had a grandma who was around a lot but it was made clear to me by my family that i was not
to consider her "mine".

I would raise the subject from time to time, that i didnt have a grandma, but again it was made plain to me that the greater tragedy was that my parents no longer had their mothers, and that i should just shut it.

Pretty much it just felt like my parents were holding their breath until i got married and they could be done with me. I mean literally holding breath, cuz they rarely talked to me.